Emotional Barometer of the House

October 02, 2019

Emotional Barometer of the House

Do you feel like you’re the emotional barometer in your household?
I used to believe that Summer was the barometer and then I soon learned that when I’m patient, calm and self-aware, things run much more smoothly in our household.
Don’t get me wrong, Summer’s inconsistent behaviour, mood swings and yelling do impact the mood of the house, but, when I’m in a good place, I can approach Summer with patience and understanding and have the intention of calming her down. She reacts very strongly to this positive energy.
At first, when I realized how important my energy was to the entire household, I had a lot of resentment. My initial response was, “Why the hell do I need to be responsible for everything?! Now I have the added pressure of knowing that I’m the emotional barometer of the house with four people.”
We primary caregivers are already overloaded with meetings, appointments, paperwork and now this. I was frustrated that I didn’t get a pass to be completely off the wall, be selfish and only get to think about myself. Really, that all goes out the window when we decide to bring another human being into the world.
Then I thought about it and asked myself whether I really enjoyed “losing it” and I told myself that I could choose to feel empowered that I have so much control over the family household and I could decide to use this in a positive manner.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s challenging to be patient and use a calm and soothing voice when I’m tired and suffering PMS cramps (thank God for dill pickle chips & chocolate), but I do embrace the fact that my family wants and needs me at my best. It is a win-win situation.
The more I focus on my self-care and ensure that I eat well, exercise, have alone time, etc. the more harmonious my household is.
Like all caregivers, there are things that I cannot control and those things which I can control.
I cannot control my daughter’s rare disease and how it impacts her brain and her behaviour, yet, I can control how I respond to her outbursts.
It’s not always easy, but it sure does feel better.
 




Leave a comment


Also in News

Self-care Tips for the Holidays
Self-care Tips for the Holidays

December 04, 2019

That is where self-care comes into play.

First, I am going to set the stage and explain why you need to give yourself permission to make your self-care a priority.

And its this six-letter word that packs quite a punch.

View full article →

Self-care Tips for the Holidays
Self-care Tips for the Holidays

December 04, 2019

These are some examples of the added stress that caregivers endure during the most wonderful time of the year.

That is where self-care comes into play.

First, I am going to set the stage and explain why you need to give yourself permission to make your self-care a priority.

View full article →

My Best is Mine Alone
My Best is Mine Alone

November 27, 2019

Hmmm. This got my wheels turning and made me realize that in the past, I would have kept that “dirty little secret” to myself as I would have been embarrassed that I was being a hypocrite. 

View full article →

Sign up to receive my weekly blog, recipes and to learn more about upcoming retreats & courses.