The Power of the Mind

December 23, 2020

Profile silhouette of a female with her hair in a bun at the top of her head. The silhouette is dark at the neck and head and then behind the forehead is a bright light that looks like a rising sun.

I know that mindfulness has become a buzzword in recent years and now I fully understand the hype.

I can’t solve your problems.

As a self-care coach, I can support you. I can share tools and strategies. I can inspire you by sharing my own experience of finding self-care and how it impacted my life. I can cheer you on. 

But, at the end of the day. And at the end of a very, very, long 2020, you are the only one who can make the decision to take one step towards improving your wellbeing.

That’s the good news because it’s so empowering! That’s also the bad news because its so overwhelming.

Sometimes caregivers can feel even more stressed and more guilt as they believe that they’re doing something 

Research shows that mindset is the essential part for all of us.

My goal is to break it down, so all caregivers can take action to make one small change to improve your overall well-being. Imagine the possibilities if you made one small change a month. After six months, you would have made tremendous progress towards feeling better.

Mindset is about the awareness of what you’re thinking, what you’re feeling and eventually – being able to step back and yourself why?

     Why am I so hard on myself?

     Why am I so envious of that family?

     Why do I get sad sometimes when I see other adults my child’s age enjoying life?   

Once you start noticing your inner dialogue and your feelings, you’re usually quite surprised at how negative, judgmental and mean you can be.

Through practice and with time, you can evolve to ask yourself:

     Why am I so mean to myself?

     Would I ever talk to my best friend in the same manner that I talk to myself?

These inner dialogues that you notice are called stories. This means that they are made up in your mind and have nothing to do with reality. Popular stories that you may tell yourself are:

     I’m too busy to exercise.

     I can never trust my child with anyone else.

     It’s never going to get better.

         I have no time for myself.

While you may believe 100% that these stories are true, you have the power to change them.

The first step in changing these stories is to change your mindset.

You see, life is overwhelming enough and it’s easy to tell yourself that you simply don’t have the time to change your thoughts – and this is the biggest story (aka LIE) that you can tell yourself.

Once you take the first step towards mindfulness, you start to feel small moments of empowerment. Once you realize how powerful your thoughts are and that you can actually control them, you start to feel a little more in control of your life.

Control in the life of a caregiver is a beautiful gift. There is so much uncertainty and things beyond your control, that it becomes fun to learn that you actually control your own reactions and your own feelings.

This is the true gift of mindfulness. And that is the support that I offer.





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