5 Honest Struggles of a Caregiver

Feeling overwhelmed? You’re not alone—here’s how to cope with caregiver stress

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5 Honest Struggles of a Caregiver
Published on,
10
Feb
,
2025

Feeling overwhelmed? You’re not alone—here’s how to cope with caregiver stress

Caregiving is a journey filled with love, responsibility, and a deep sense of purpose. But let’s be real—it’s also one of the hardest things a person can do. The emotional and physical toll can be overwhelming, and sometimes, the weight of it all feels unbearable. If you’ve ever had thoughts like these, know that you are not alone. Here are five raw confessions from caregivers and the truth behind each one.

1. Intellectually, I get it—but emotionally, it’s too hard

Understanding something logically and processing it emotionally are two very different things. As caregivers, we often know what needs to be done, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to accept. The reality of watching a loved one struggle can hit like a wave—again and again. It’s okay to acknowledge that while your mind knows what to do, your heart needs more time to catch up. Give yourself grace.

2. The Mental load of caregiving is exhausting—here’s how to lighten it

Caregiving isn’t just about the physical tasks; it’s also an endless cycle of planning, decision-making, and problem-solving. Trying to maintain stability in a situation that can change at any moment is mentally draining. This exhaustion isn’t a sign of failure—it’s proof that you’re deeply invested in your loved one’s well-being. Recognizing when you need rest is just as important as anything else on your to-do list.

3. When small setbacks feel huge: managing emotional fatigue

One moment, you feel strong. The next, a single unexpected challenge or an offhand comment can unravel everything. This is normal. The emotional reservoir you draw from daily gets depleted, sometimes without you realizing it. When the smallest thing feels like too much, it’s a sign that you need to refill your own cup. Step back, breathe, and remind yourself that setbacks don’t erase your strength.

4. Afraid to cry because you might not stop? Why emotional release matters

Suppressing emotions might feel like the only way to stay functional, but bottling them up only increases the pressure. The truth is, you will stop crying. Maybe not immediately, but eventually. Letting yourself feel the weight of your emotions is not a weakness—it’s a necessary release. Find safe spaces to let it out, whether it’s with a trusted friend, a journal, or even in solitude.

5. Feeling like you’ve aged overnight? How to reclaim your energy

Caregiving changes you. The stress, the worry, and the responsibility can make you feel years older than you actually are. But remember—every wrinkle, every gray hair, every moment of exhaustion is a testament to the love and dedication you’ve given. While caregiving takes its toll, finding ways to prioritize your own well-being can help reclaim parts of yourself that feel lost.

You are not alone

If these struggles resonate with you, take comfort in knowing that countless other caregivers share the same challenges. The journey is tough, but you don’t have to walk it alone. Seeking support, taking small moments for yourself, and acknowledging your feelings are all acts of self-care. You are doing an incredible job—don’t forget to show yourself the same compassion you so freely give to others.

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About the Author

Nicole Dauz is a self-care coach, author and speaker who chooses happiness despite her circumstances.

Experience is her teacher as the mother of a neurotypical son and a daughter with a rare genetic disease and autism. Her mission is to change the story around caregiving and celebrate the journey. She honours the role of the caregiver by helping them recognize their worth and their true gifts.

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